What we have here is a failure to communicate.
Bottom line first: We are in a mess of our own making, and it will take guts and hard work to get out of it.
Democrats had political power and control for so many decades that we lost our direction, became complacent, and out of touch with too many citizens. Our democratic messages, methods and actions were too predictable (making us easy targets) and human beings get bored with predictable. NO MATTER how good people may have it, they are sometimes willing to take extreme risks, and endure considerable discomfort, for excitement, change and challenge. We may not like it but this is how growth occurs and we humans know it intelligently, intuitively or both.
Even though relatively rapid changes, such as those we've seen in our political system since 1994, may be excessive and harmful to those wanting, and causing it, e.g. voters, many folks are willing, and even eager, to suffer through it. Paradoxically we humans while liking security, comfort and stability, also seem to have a perverse need to punish and make ourselves uncomfortable, as if in need of penance for something.
The next phase in this perpetual, political life and death drama is that, even while suffering and aware that it's because of our own actions, humans tend to act defensive and recalcitrant about returning to better times e.g. when we had a Democrat as President. The complete process of profound political change can take decades or more, as we saw in the changes from Czarist Russia to the USSR to the current Russian Republic. In other words, we may be only in the beginning of a still recent, so-called, "conservative phase"
which may last for a long time.
We are absolutely in a struggle for the very heart, soul, meaning and purpose of our nation. The "other side" hungered for power and control for a very long time. Now they have it and they intend to keep what it at all costs and to acquire more -
even as much as total power and control. There will be no compromise for many of their
"True Believers". Republicans seem to have thoroughly studied how to win, and seem very able and willing to apply what they know more effectively than democrats. I hope I'm wrong.